When Your Inner Critic Becomes Too Loud: Reclaiming Your Self-Worth

We all have an inner voice. At times, it encourages us, keeps us accountable, or helps us reflect. But for many, that voice can turn critical, constantly questioning, judging, and undermining. This inner critic can become one of the loudest voices in our minds, and over time, it chips away at our confidence, peace, and sense of self-worth.

What Is the Inner Critic?

The inner critic is that internal voice that focuses on your perceived flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings. It might sound like:

• “You’re not good enough.”

• “Why can’t you be more like them?”

• “You’ll just mess it up again.”

• “Don’t even try, you’ll fail.”

While the inner critic may develop as a misguided way to protect us from failure, shame, or rejection, it often creates the very pain it’s trying to prevent. Left unchecked, it can feed self-doubt, anxiety, perfectionism, and even depression.

Where Does It Come From?

Our inner critic is often shaped by early life experiences. Harsh criticism from caregivers, bullying, trauma, or cultural messages around success and worthiness can all leave lasting imprints. Over time, these messages become internalized, not as things we heard, but as things we believe about ourselves.

How the Inner Critic Affects Mental Health

Living with a strong inner critic can feel like being in a constant battle with yourself. It can:

• Undermine confidence and self-esteem

• Fuel anxiety and avoidance

• Increase emotional exhaustion

• Sabotage relationships and opportunities

• Reinforce negative thinking patterns

The inner critic thrives in silence and shame. But once it’s named, explored, and challenged, it loses its power.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy provides a safe space to confront the inner critic. With the help of a trained psychologist, you can begin to:

• Recognize when the critical voice is active

• Understand its origins and patterns

• Separate the inner critic from your true self

• Replace self-judgment with self-compassion

• Learn new ways of responding to yourself with care

Reclaiming your self-worth isn’t about silencing the inner critic entirely, it’s about learning not to believe everything it says.

A Few Things to Remember

• You are not your thoughts.

• You don’t need to earn your worth.

• Your mistakes do not define you.

• You are allowed to grow and change.

Final Thoughts

The journey toward self-acceptance often begins by noticing the way we speak to ourselves. If your inner critic is too loud, too harsh, or too constant, it's time to shift the narrative.

At JSI Psychology, we’re here to walk with you on that journey, toward softer thoughts, stronger self-worth, and a life lived with more compassion from the inside out.

You are worthy. You’ve always been. Let’s explore that together. Book your session today.