Understanding loss and bereavement:
Loss is a condition or compilation of feelings associated with being without something or someone cherished. Grief is an emotional state of profound sadness and a reaction to the disruption of an attachment and is closely associated with loss. The period after a loss during which grief and mourning are experienced is known as bereavement. Grief encompasses more than just sadness. A well-known model of grief called "The Five Stages of Grief" identifies denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance as the "stages" our mind goes through after someone we love dies, and we attempt to make sense of the loss.
Understanding loss and bereavement:
Any internal psychological, or physiological response to a trigger or stressor is referred to as stress. Most of us experience stress on a daily basis. Common symptoms of stress include irritability, anger, digestive problems, feeling nervous or anxious, fatigue, headache, muscle tension and feeling depressed. Everyday stress can impact our health negatively and lead to the development of both physical and psychological conditions. Anxiety is a fundamental human emotion that produces bodily reactions that prepare us for fight or flight. Anxiety is also considered to be an anticipatory emotion in that the dreaded situation or event has not yet occurred. Anxiety often produces worry, tension and physiological reactivity. People vary in how they express their anxiety, what triggers their anxiety and in the severity of their anxiety reactions. Fear is a more intense emotion experienced in response to a threatening situation or circumstance. Unfounded fear and/or anxiety that interferes with our daily functioning and that produces clinically significant life impairment, or distress is a sign of an anxiety disorder.
What are the stages of grief?
There has been an effort to help an individual unpack and understand their emotions after a significant loss. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross devised a model which theorises five stages of grief and loss. The five stages are:
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Denial
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Anger
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Bargaining
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Depression
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Acceptance
Through time, different sources have added what they believe to be other stages of grief. There is a more inclusive 7 stages of grief which expanded on 'The Five Stages of Grief', namely:
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Shock and denial
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Pain and guilt
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Anger and bargaining
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Depression, reflection, and loneliness
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The upward turn
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Reconstruction and working through
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Acceptance
It is important to note that while these grief models assist individuals who are grieving to understand their process and how to move forward, grieving is an individual, subjective experience and not everyone will experience the same order of grief stages or even experience every stage as outlined above.
How are loss and bereavement treated?
Everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. Some people recover from bereavement within six months and resume normal activities while still experiencing melancholy at times. After a year, some people may feel better. Other illnesses, most notably depression, can exacerbate grief. The degree of a person's reliance on the deceased may also exacerbate the bereavement process. Many challenging and confusing emotions are often present during the bereavement or grieving process. Self-care, recreation, and social support can all help an individual feel better. Whether the loss is due to death, a breakup, or another cause, grieving the loss of a loved one is a painful process.
Grief is a challenging experience from which no one ever fully recovers. Time, however, usually dampens its ferocity. Complicated or prolonged grieving is long-term grieving that lasts a year or longer, and that gets worse. The time it takes a person to grieve is highly variable and dependent on the circumstances. However, if symptoms remain for an extended period without improving, they may be classified as Prolonged Grief Disorder according to the DSM-5. Complicated or prolonged grief can feel like a heightened, ongoing state of mourning that keeps an individual from healing.
Furthermore, the signs and symptoms of Prolonged Grief Disorder are more intense. Complicated or prolonged grief can take over a person's life and make it impossible for them to operate normally. Complicated or prolonged grief is frequently addressed by employing psychodynamic therapy, supportive therapy, person-centred therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), brain working and recursive therapy (BWRT), reset therapy and /or acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). When done individually or in a group setting, these treatment modalities can be beneficial.
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